Why I Write Erotica

When I was growing up, sex was something that "married people" did.  My parents wouldn't talk to me about it.  I went to a Catholic grade school and our "sex education" consisted of the boys and girls being herded into separate rooms so we could see a video. In it, a girl kissed a boy on the beach (both were clothed) and in the next scene, she was hugging the toilet throwing up.  Her mother yelled at her for getting pregnant and her boyfriend ran away when she told him the news.  It made a huge impression on me. No one told me that there was more than a kiss involved in getting pregnant.  Imagine the torture my first boyfriend went through trying to get a kiss out of me when I was petrified of getting pregnant. Back then, it was called "first base" and poor Greg struck out every time.

Movies back then always panned off into the distance when the hero and heroine kissed. No one saw what was happening in the bedroom. It was left to our imagination and those of us who weren't married were left in the dark. I'm almost embarrassed to say this, but I didn't have sex until I was 18...very old by today's standards. I couldn't even get my hands on any books that shed light on the topic. Luckily, my second boyfriend was a very virile young man who threw rocks at my window and snuck into my bedroom when my parents were sleeping. Ah, young love! I got a good education from him. Unfortunately, he went off to Vietnam and the war ruined our plans to get married.

I eventually married another handsome young man who knew the basic sex positions and for 18 years, that was our life. It wasn't until after I got divorced that I found out about Kama Sutra and D/s.

I can't say for sure that my marriage might have turned out differently had I been more sexually aware back then. However, if the romance novels that I read voraciously during those years had more graphic sex, I might have encouraged my husband to explore different things. But when one doesn't know what one is missing, it's hard to verbalize what you want. I personally like reading a hot book. It turns me on and that directly affects my partner.

I recall the priest telling my fiance that there were three things that most couples argued about -- 1) money, 2) sex, and 3) religion. He was right on. Sex is important to a relationship and whether one is single or married, it never hurts to get a little stimulated beforehand. Erotica books go a long way to achieving that goal. And that is why I write erotica.